"If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay home. You are like a pebble thrown into the water; you become wet on the surface but you are never a part of the water."
- James A. Michener
Note that: After living in the culture there for a while, it is easy to become accostomed to Portuguese spellings. Therefore, please expect to see me write "Brasil" instead of "Brazil" in a few locations. On some of the English camp teams, members of the teams were doing that after the first few e-mail messages back home.
People look at my white skin, hear my English, and expect me to be another regular American kid. But I'm not...not really. I've just come from a country where the plumbing is less than efficient, so one doesn't flush the toilet paper. Sometimes I forget that's okay in the United States.
- Heather Elliott, in the Fall, 2002 issue of The Evangelical Challenge, in an article describing the interesting challenge of starting university studies in the USA, from a background of being an American growing up in South America.
In virtually all locations of South America, it is expected that someone using the toilet will put the used toilet paper in the trash can provided next to the toilet. This is because, for many years, the sewer line in the building could not handle toilet paper very well. If you forget and put some in, it isn't a sure bet that the toilet will plug up, and most of the newer buildings seem to have adequate pipe size to handle toilet paper now. However, it is still expected that tolet paper goes in the trash, and it is best to do this when you can remember. There is a technique that many Brazilians seem to have, to wrapping the toilet paper around the used area so that there is no exposed soiled surface and most residences have trash cans beside the toilet that have a lid on them to keep any order inside. If you visit and stay in one of the big expensive hotels in Rio de Janeiro or Sào Paulo, then this is something you do not have to worry about, as they seem to be designed for toilet paper to go either way. On the other hand, in most other locaitons the trash can is the expected receptacle.
Oh, yeah, and be prepared to explain, in a patient and diplomatic way, just why, exactly, Americans flush toilet paper rather than putting it in the trash. According to many Brazilians, it is very strange to them that one would put toilet paper into the toilet.
The phones are so convenient and the system so common and economical that I have decided to purchase a card upon entering Brasil each visit. It is good to be able to make phone calls, and you can't just use coins, so I think it is a good idea to have one. There are some USA-issued phone dial-in (as opposed to magnetic) calling cards that work in Brasil, but my suspicion is that the rate would be horrific to use them for local calls. If you don't use the whole thing, then so what? You can always give it to some new-found Brazilian friend when you go home.
The traditional Brazilian system also uses a lot of electricity, but only while the water is running. It only provides heat to the shower, and that is generally the only place where hot water is available or desired in the typical Brazilian living situation.
Where most Americans screw up with these things is that the volume of water determines how hot the water gets. If you pass a lot of water through the heater, it doesn't heat up very well before going out of the shower head. On the other hand, if you reduce the water volume, it will stay in the shower head longer, and get heated. What most Americans do is, if the water isn't hot enough, they turn the water on harder. This has the opposite of the desired effect.
The wires sticking out of the side of the shower head and going up into the wall? They are insulated, but to connect them to the house wiring sometimes they are connected with a compression screw terminal block. These screws on these are whatever voltage the house wiring is, so don't touch them.
Sometimes, you will find both a hot and cold water handle, as well as an electric shower head. What this means is that the system has both hot and hold plumming in it, but chances are the hot water system has not been completely installed yet. Therefore, turning on the hot water faucet will only give you more cold water, once again reducing the temperature of the water coming out of the shower head. This is yet another way in which Americans can screw up when trying to use these systems. If there is a hot water handle, but there is also a functioning electric shower head, then assume that the hot water lines in the building do not have hot water yet.
However, Brazil has also had many immigrants over the years, as well as a lot of cultural influence from the media in the USA. Therefore, unfortunately, this important part of Brazilian culture at times seems like it is slowly disappearing. Some of the younger generation seem to never touch eachother at all. This is a very, very unfortunate thing when you consider the importance of physical contact for the development of children and its overall function in society. Perhaps it is not just a coincidence that crime rates have been on the increase in Brazil.
Even as that may be, those that come from a northern European or Anglo-American perspective will probably need some adjustment. Even after being in Brazil on several occasions, and even after knowing that physical contact is different, it is still surprising what happens sometimes.
I can list a number of incidents where physical contact was surprisingly strong. For example, in one particular case, a woman offered to translate parts of a church service for me. This was very good, and her English excellent. In order to translate quietly, though, she pushed her entire body into mine, so that this woman, whom I had never met, was closer physically than most married couples get while they are sitting in our churches back home. I was a little nervous about this at first, seeing how her boyfriend was seated on her other side, but slowly everything the pre-trip information said about how South American culture tends to have more physical contact simply became a lot more real to me. Friends touching and caressing eachothers hands and arms isn't unusual, but it is one thing to watch this practice among two Brazilians, and quite another to abruptly find someone holding onto your hand and caressing it.
The two things I offer in the way of advice as far as this goes is:
Brazil, however, is far better about its trash problem than a number of other countries. Despite the large amount of trash beside the roads in Brazil, they do at least have public trash cans in many locations. Honduras, for example, seems to be far worse. Paraguay also seems to have a lot of trash problems.
Keep in mind as well what it says above about physical contact. In most churches in the USA, people greet eachother with a handshake. In Brasil, expect hugs, and maybe a kiss on the cheeck between man and woman, during the time that members of the congregation greet eachother. Expect this to be a longer process than is typical in the USA, as well.
However, despite all these things, many in the Brazilian church look to those in the church in the USA for spiritual guidance. People will be watching you to see what you do, and try to remember Romans chapter 14, and in particular verses 13 to 15:
I know and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself; but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it is unclean. If your brother is being injured by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let what you eat cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died.
Now, I am not saying that you need to be careful about what you eat in Brasil, because eating is one thing that does not seem to have many social restraints in Brasil. On the other hand, you may need to be careful about what you do, say, and react. You may not always like what people put on the table in front of you. I have found that a number of Americans don't like the fact that beans and rice are eaten at almost all Brazilian meals. Tough. Chances are that is what the family can afford, and worked hard to prepare it. At least you are not on the mission field in some rural place in Africa where they will feed you grasshoppers. Would it kill you to act as though you really enjoyed eating it? Remember that these are probably brothers and sisters in Christ, and to treat them with respect due to a fellow family member. Furthermore, you will find that combining it with various other foods, as the Brazilians do, adds to the variety of tastes. The basic material is the same, but some days there may be chicken or fish or beef or any number of other things mixed in. It may not be much, due to the cost, but enough to alter the taste from day to day.
You may be invited to stand in front of the church you visit. Be prepared to look presentable. In Brazil, most of the churches have a sort of casual/formal dress code. This is similar to what you will see in many of the churches in the Pacific Northwest. It is probably best to avoid wearing shorts, even if many of the people in the rest of the church are wearing them. Remember, many of the people look to you as someone worthy of respect, similar to the pastor of the church, and may expect you to be dressed somewhat better than the average person for the church service.
Once again, it is important to maintain some sense of what others are doing around you, and try to understand what they expect from you, while maintaining some personal liberty and yet also keeping in mind the verses from Romans, above. This is all a delicate balance, but possible with help from God.
Return with me for a moment to the James A. Michener quote at the top of the page. Understand what I have that on this page: if you don't understand how the people live, it is quite difficult to minister to them. Complete understanding is not necessary, but some measure of understanding of the culture is very important. This understanding could be helped by visiting people in their homes. As possible, please try to let God lead in what happens, as some wonderful opportunities to meet brothers and sisters in the faith may open up.
Communication may be difficult, but hand signals, patience, a good smile, and Christian love expressed as well as you can will go a long way. Expressing Christian love can fill in the shortcomings of many things.